Valentine’s Day is pretty much around the corner and even if you try to be oblivious of it, the color red (the color of love) is popping from almost every gift store, supermarket and boutique just to interrupt your ignoring process.
At this time, I bet the 5-Star restaurants are already booked to capacity and lovers are tightening up loose ends as to make the best arrangements in order to surprise their loved ones or reassure them of their genuine, heartfelt, undying feelings for them.
As much as doing things big are fancy and will make your guy or girl the envy of their friends, I’ve always been a believer in the small things because they really count. Nope, I’m not going to dictate how you decide how you decide to spend Val’s Day but allow me take you back in time to the history of Valentine’s Day.
Basically, the goal here is to remind us how Val’s Day came about and compare it to what it has become today.
“The story of Valentine’s Day begins in the third century with an oppressive Roman emperor and a humble Christian Martyr. The emperor was Claudius II, the Christian was Valentinus.
Claudius had ordered all Romans to worship twelve gods, and had made it a crime punishable by death to associate with Christians. But Valentinus was dedicated to the ideals of Christ; not even the threat of death could keep him from practicing his beliefs. He was arrested and imprisoned.
During the last week of Valentinus’ life, a remarkable thing happened. Seeing that he was a man of learning, the jailer asked whether his daughter, Julia, might be brought to Valentinus for lessons. She had been blind since birth. Julia was a pretty young girl with a quirk mind. Valentinus read stories of Rome’s history to her. He described the world of nature to her. He taught her arithmetic and told her about God. She saw the world through his eyes, trusted his wisdom and found comfort in his quiet strength.
“Valentinus, does God really hear our prayers?” Julia asked one day.
“Yes, my child, He hears each one.”
“Do you know what I pray for every morning and night? I pray that I might see. I want so much to see everything you’ve told me about!”
“God does what is best for us if we will only believe in Him,” Valentinus said.
“Oh Valentinus, I do believe! I do!” She knelt and grasped his hand.
They sat quietly together, each praying. Suddenly there was a brilliant light in the prison cell. Radiant, Julia screamed, “Valentinus, I can see! I can see!”
“Praise be to God!” Valentinus exclaimed, and knelt down in prayer.
On the eve of his death, Valentinus wrote a last note to Julia, urging her to stay close to God. He signed it, “From your Valentine.” His sentence was carried out the next day, February 14, 270 A.D., near a gate that was later named Porta Valentini in his memory. He was buried at what is now the Church of Praxedes in Rome. It is said that Julia planted a pink-blossomed almond tree near his grave.
Today, the almond tree remains a symbol of abiding love and friendship. On each February 14, Saint Valentine’s Day, messages of affection, love, and devotion are exchanged around the world.”
Culled from www.olrl.org/lives/home
The first time I came across that story, I was taken aback by the difference between the event that led to the commemoration of Valentine’s Day and what it has become today. I’d like to think time is the main factor that has influenced this change. Exchanging gift cards, flowers and candy at work, spa treatments, exotic dinners and getaways, mind blowing sex, movies, picnics etc are some of the modern ways love is expressed on Val’s Day.
Well, I’d advise no one gets carried away by the Valentine’s Day movies/the media shows us. I bet not everyone can afford that and truth be told, love can be expressed on any day of the year. If your budget or account balance does not align with your plans for a glam celebration at this time, lots of chocolate, pizza and ice-cream or wine while seeing a movie at home can suffice.
Valentine’s Day can also be when you surprise your loved one with that one thing they have always fancied having or return tickets to a getaway destination. There are really no bounds to what you can do to show love. Bottom line is stick to your budget. Make visible effort, let your lover recognize and appreciate but don’t go over board and over stretch your limits.
Valentine’s Day is also a good time to pop the question to your woman or ask someone you really like to be your girl. Whatever you decide to do with your February 14 is totally up to you but do it well. As for single folk, this may be one of those times the reminder actually stings especially if you have been hoping to meet a special someone. No worries, Cupid’s strike of love will certainly hit you in good time. Valentine’s Day for singles is not totally out of the books as you and your single friends can come together and have a great get-together.
Lastly, I don’t know how much emphasis is laid on protected sex among your groups but if you’re unmarried and the heat of love/passion skyrockets to where you can’t control it and you have to go all the way, WRAP.IT.UP. You do not want to face the challenges of being a parent when you’re not in the least ready for it.
Have a lovely, lovely celebration.