The pressure to become insanely rich is becoming tremendously overwhelming in our society today. Yeah there’s nothing wrong with having dreams and aspirations and wanting the best things in life. We see celebrities and other rich people in our society and we want to be like them but the problem is we do not have the patience to go through all the hardship they went through before they got to where they are. We want money but we don’t want to work for it. We want easy money. We want fast money. That’s the problem with the society today. That’s the problem with the youth of today. That’s the problem with the females of today.

In this day and age, with the issue of feminism gaining so much ground, every girl should start working hard to get what they want. Most girls however are trying the whole fake it till you make it thing and it’s actually working for them. And that’s the problem, the fact that they are able to fake their lives and get away with it motivates other young girls to go in the same direction.

Guys complain about girls always asking for stuff from them but the truth is guys encourage these kinds of girls. You see a girl with the latest phone, wearing expensive clothes, her hair glowing under the sun, and that’s the girl you pick over the one standing at the back, immensely beautiful but so insecure because her phone isn’t the latest or because her shoes aren’t 6 inches. There’s nothing wrong with going for a girl with these high standards, but before you date her or whatever how about you ask her simple questions like “hey, what do you do for a living?” or at least get to know her before you begin to invest your time in her. Most guys know the truth about these types of girls yet they choose to overlook it and at the end of the day they end up putting all girls under the same category.

Nigerian girls need to learn not to depend on men for everything and they need guys to help them reach that place. Don’t encourage them. Guys at this point should be looking for ride or die chicks and not just a girl that’s into them for what they can get out of them. It’s simple logic you don’t eat where you don’t farm.

Make something out of yourself and nobody will call you names. If you’re looking to a man for financial security, then don’t be surprised when there is you, him and a sidechick. Men love independent women and go getters. Those are the kind of girls that real men are attracted to.

Most importantly though, don’t do it for the men, do it for yourself, the feeling of getting paid for something you know you worked for is amazing. No matter how small. Truth is, we as girls need to stop doing everything in to get the attention of men. And yes there are so many hardworking young women out there who do what they do for themselves not for the opposite and we all need to learn to be like them. Find yourself a role model, a strong woman and strive to be more like her and not like the ones that uses their bodies to make money. To avoid being called names that will offend you, set goals, work hard and later sit and enjoy your success.


This article was written by Faith Onaji

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