A couple of years back I think it’s safe to say that Nigerians were not even going on real dates. But now, things have changed we are evolving with the times (thank God) still though, the idea of dating seems to be taken for granted. Both parties don’t always know how to conduct themselves. Here are a few tips to make sure the first date goes well and you actually get a chance at a second date.

Never Split The Bill On A First Date

It’s only normal that the guy pays the bill for the first date. It’s tradition. Most likely, he asked for the date, so he should foot the bill. Also it makes him seem like less of a loser. Subsequent dates of course, there’s nothing wrong with splitting the bill and ladies footing the bills every once in a while.

Do Not Talk About Your Ex

This is a huge red flag. It signals to the other person that maybe you are not entirely over your ex and that will cause problems later in the relationship if it proceeds to that.

Do Not Over Order

A lot of ladies feel when someone asks them on a date then automatically that person is ready to spend all his life savings on them. They order what they’ll eat there, order for their friends and siblings and even their cats. Please don’t do this. It gives you a bad name and of course chances for a second date is zero.

Don’t Not Kiss

The “no kissing on the first date” rule should be strictly adhered to as it is very vital. Of course you don’t plan these things. But a lot of guys expect that after the first date they should be able to get a kiss. This is wrong. Let the mood show you. And maybe a kiss on the forehead or the cheek after the date to be more gentlemanlyPlease don’t try and force your tongue down her throat on the first date.

Don’t Try Too Hard

Relax and let it happen. Just be yourself. If you try too hard, you will end up saying or doing things that you’ll most likely regret.

Don’t Go With Your Friend

Seems absurd but yes, this happens. Ladies tend to take their friends with them on dates. This immediately sends the message that you are only out for what you can get and not ready to be serious. So please, leave your friends at home.

Don’t Text Or Pick Calls

This should go without saying. Texting and talking while with someone is downright rude and shouldn’t be done. If you get a call and it’s important, politely take excuse to answer the call and keep it short.

Dress Appropriately

Dress according to the location of or date. If it’s a dinner date to somewhere fancy, wear a dress.  If it’s to the movies, a pair of jeans etc.


This article was written by Fayth Onaji

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