You know when you had unprotected sex some weeks back and your body starts showing you all sorts of signs, like missed periods, nausea and all of that. More often than not, it turns out to be a pregnancy, other times, it turns out to be a farce.

A pregnancy scare can cause your emotions to go on a roller coaster as that is when you start asking yourself questions about your life, your school (if you are still a student), your parents, your friends etc. But worrying won’t help you at this point in time, so what do you do?

First call your boyfriend up. Yes, it takes two to make a baby, you didn’t do this on your own and so he needs to be aware of the situation.

Be careful not to talk about it on the phone, wait until he sees you, unless of course, he is somewhere far away. Now, expect that a baby changes the picture and he is not going to be so in love with you as he once claimed, when he hears the news. Anything he says after you tell him, is just him speaking from fear. He may say hurtful things, like “sort yourself out” etc., he may even scream at you, he is just scared at the time. Do not take it to heart. Or, he may actually be calm and talk this through with you.

Next, decide on what you both want to do. There are a lot of options and a D and C shouldn’t be the first thing to come to your mind. Do you want to give this baby up for adoption after you give birth? Do you want to keep the baby, get married or be a single parent?  Then you need to take the test. Remember this is just a scare. You still need to take the test to be sure. You can buy the home testing kit or go to the hospital to have one done. Neither is expensive, but I’d rather you went to the hospital just to be sure.

Now that you are pregnant, you need to confide in someone, preferably, your mother. No matter how strict she is, she won’t turn you away. You are her daughter and you are carrying her grandchild. You both need to sit and discuss and make plans for this new baby.

-Blessing Iyamadiken

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