By Joyce Imiegha
“Monogamy or whatever you call it; I’m starting to think it ain’t for everybody. Most of us are rushing into it anyways..”
I happen to be one of the really few people who believe and sincerely support this quoted line above. And just in case you happen to be judgemental and not open-minded about subjects like this, I’d suggest you read no further.
According to wikipedia, Monogamy is a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime or at any one time. Hence; being in a monogamy relationship simply means, NO EXTRA LEAGUES. Polygamy on the other hand is a marriage or relationship that includes more than one partner.
In our society today, monogamy and polygamy are being practised by different ethnic, religious and racial groups. Some religions take for example, Christianity restricts it’s followers to monogamy only, While the Islam religion on the other hand permits polygamy and all its pros & cons.
But theoretically speaking, asides cultural values, religious beliefs and what have you; Would you rather be polygamous or monogamous? Are you mentally polygamous already? Do you think monogamy may or may not really work for you regardless of your religious or ethnic beliefs?
“Love is cursed by monogamy”.
Many relationships and marriages today have broken up and packed up because of people’s inability to stay faithful to their partners. People are being forced to accept a way of life they cannot be committed to. I for one have met people who blatantly expressed their inability to remain monogamous or remain exclusive to their partners.
In my opinion, Love for one’s partner shouldn’t be questioned in a situation where promises to maintain a monogamous relationship/marriage fails. We all know that one neighbour, colleague, boss or friend who’s madly in love with his wife but still keeps a girlfriend on the side. It’s no news that it has also become an habitual act for some Niger-Delta men to “marry more wives” or keep girlfriends on the side “just in case”.
Except it really goes over the bar, I personally have come to terms with humans’ need to explore. Hence, breaking up a marriage or relationship because of a spouse’s inability to stay monogamous is an act of naivety. Truth be told, monogamy is sometimes a hard decision to stick to.
Distance I must add is a major catalyst of polygamy. So dear readers, before going into relationships/marriages, you should have to discuss with your partner and clear out your points of views. Also, simply prepare yourself should in case someone falls out in the course of maintaining a “monogamous relationship”.
Disclaimer: I’m not encouraging polygamy and will not be held responsible for decisions made after reading this piece. I’m just saying.