Of recent, there has been what seems like an increase in the incidences of domestic violence, with women being physically abused by their husbands. The other day, I had to sit through Tonto Dike’s video in which she described the fate she had suffered in the hands of her husband.
As I watched the video, I could not help the different questions that kept passing through my mind. When did we get to this point exactly? Why does it seem like men change once they get married to a lady?
In my confusion, I asked a friend of mine who is supposedly married. The answer she gave me baffled me. She told me that I should also ask what the woman did. It was then it struck me, women have been so brainwashed by the society that they think that any act of abuse they get at the receiving end of is their fault because of something they may or may not have done.
We need to get something clear, for a man to lay his hands on you in an act of abuse, it means he sees you as less than human, and does not have a single iota of respect for you. Many of these men do not even beat their children but would readily lift their hands against their wife as though she were a good purchased in the market. Let me ask a question, how many cohabiting men fight and throw punches at themselves? So if you would not beat a man up to make your point, why would your wife, someone you claim to love, someone you have sex with and a lot of it, become an easy target for you?
Again it boils down to the entitlement mentality a lot of men have. They feel that once they have married a woman, she has become one of their properties, a tool to be used for whatsoever purposes they like. This is the reason why a man would disrespect his wife in the most gruesome manner of inflicting physical injuries.
Dear ladies, it takes two to make a marriage work. It is true that God does not like divorce but he sure doesn’t want you losing your sanity because of a man. We have passed that stage where you want to stay in a marriage because of your children because believe me you are doing more harm to them than good. If the heat gets too much, leave the kitchen before you get burnt. There is more to life than marriage.
This article was written by Blessing Iyamadiken