In one way or the other, either personal or professional life you will have to share your feedback considering people’s actions and how you feel they should have better handled those situations. Mastering the art is important to dealing with people. It shows that you care about their feelings, want them to improve and want the best out of certain situations.
Here are healthy steps to take to give constructive situations.
Appreciate the individuals efforts to the situation then address areas you feel they fell short in and where you feel they could have done better. Using this method, the person recognizes the fact that you appreciate their effort and will be motivated to do better.
Focus on the situation and not the person
Focus on the situations the person is possibly able to find difficulty and address the issue of how they can turn the tables to favour them. For instance, you realize Temi in accounts has a problem with public speaking. You can advice that, it would be better to gather her words, understand the situation and use a story to lead. People are drawn to stories. If Temi is able to address an audience using personal experiences, she is able to win the crowd and be less tense.
Know When To Share Your Big Ideas
Now you have listened to Temi’s horrible presentation speech. So when and how do you tell her how poorly she did?
Knowing the time to address situations is key. Some people address issues they are not fine with immediately and some with time – when the iron is hot. The best possible time to talk to someone is minutes after. This is a time when they are settled and in a mind space where they are willing to receive and not defend their actions.
In most situations, the best way to help someone be better is to share relatable stories of others. People are able to listen more and take criticisms when other peoples stories of defeat and conquer are shared with them.
Be More Positive
Let your feedback be filled will positivity. This leaves the individual with a stint of hope and a motive to do better.
Positive statements like this ; ‘I love how assertive you are but you should also be able to be open to the opinion of others.’ encourage people to do better.
This article was written by Omah Ogbuehi; she tweets via @OmahSpeaks