Did you know that approximately 85 per cent of the world ’s workforce hate their jobs? Did you know that the lack of job satisfaction is one of the leading causes of depression? Did you know that the above-mentioned cause of depression cuts across the rich and the poor? Did you know that it has been observed that many high-level executives leave well-paying jobs to take up lower paying ones where they feel a sense of purpose? I guess what I’m trying to say is this: the success we have been thought to chase is a scam.
What does every Tomiwa, Dike and Chinyere with aspirations to be music stars have in common with pant stealing yahoo boys, youths that want to work in big multinationals, or with many other people who will fight tooth and nail to secure political positions?
Why are our schools filled with people studying law, medicine, engineering or other ‘professional courses’ and not what they are passionate about? The common denominator is that many of us are chasing a flawed belief of success. For instance, it took my grandmother a long time for her to process why I don’t want to practice law.
However, sometimes, the problem is not us. At least not on a conscious level. As social creatures, we adopt the ideology of the society we live in. Hence, we adopt what the society believes success is, and hardly do we define what it means for us.
We have been taught that success starts with us. We have been taught that to damn the whole world as we chase our happiness. That wealth is in riches, that caring is a weakness. Very few people would tell you that a person’s biggest regret on his death bed would not be the opportunities to make money that they lost, but losing the opportunities to build real relationships.
Success is not fame, it is not buying Benz, it is not having a respectable job, and earning a flush salary. It is not spending holidays at exotic resorts or wearing fancy clothes. Success is often the opposite of what we were taught as a society. Success could be different things to different people.
I personally believe that there isn’t a metric for success, but these signs shall follow a successful person.
- Genuine love for people, and a desire to building others up.
- Contentment and gratitude.
- Deep sense of purpose.
If success can only be found in the possessions we can acquire, then we truly are poor.
I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.
– Albert Schweitzer
This article was written by Ogbe Oristemisan; connect with him on IG here