False accusations can do a lot of damage to a person’s integrity especially when there is really no way to prove your innocence.
Picture this: You live with this amazing person who is of the same sex as you are, and things happen to be going very well. You know, you all gist together, you get along just fine. Everything is going just well. Then one day, something happens.
He/she wakes you up and says they kept something (doesn’t have to be money) and now they can’t find it. You say that you didn’t take it, because of course, you have yours. Then they start to get angry and say you are taking them for a fool and you are just confused because, in your mind, you are thinking “I have mine, why would I want yours”. Long and short is you both stop talking. You actually didn’t do what you were accused of, but you are confused and don’t know what to do next.
It is false accusation basically, but what do you do. You are desperate to prove your innocence but you don’t just know how to.
False accusations can do a lot of damage to a person’s integrity especially when there is really no way to prove your innocence. A lot of people have been wrongly sentenced simply because they were at the wrong place at the wrong time. Sometimes, the truth comes out and other times, the truth never comes out. I happen to know two men who spent six years in Kirikiri maximum prison awaiting trial for a murder neither of them committed all because they were in the wrong place at a wrong time. In the end they were released, but guess what? A lot of damage had been done to their psyche and their lives. Six years had gone down the drain for something for which they were innocent. It is no news that our legal system is quite messy. So what can you do if you happen to be in that situation.
- Maintain your stance: “There is nothing that screams “liar” like changing testimonies. Maintaining your stance is the best thing you can do for yourself at this moment.
- Try to talk to the accuser and try to make them see reasons with you.
- If number 2 doesn’t work, try to keep your distance from them, because them wrongly accusing you means that they do not trust you and a relationship without trust “ko le werk”.
This said, it is also important for you as a person to always be conscious of yourself. You have to have a reason for being at a particular place at a particular time.
This article was written by Blessing Iyamadiken